Perhaps one of the toughest aspects of job hunting is maintaining your energy when the hunt stretches out from weeks to months. After a while, cynicism and bitterness threaten to replace enthusiasm and determination.
Rejection is just part of the recruiter’s job . For 25 years, Michael Grillo has placed engineers and technical management in nearly every industry, in both up and down economic times.
There is a way to resist the bitterness and resentment that can creep up during a job hunt. “I face this in my recruiting efforts every day,” Mike said. “But look at each opportunity as a new opportunity and a new challenge.”
“For example, one day I called this company for the 30th time. They had said no every time I had called previously. But this time, the HR person asked me to help him find a welding engineer. I said I would love the opportunity! That call began what became a long-term successful relationship.”
It’s important to treat every call as if it’s your first, he said, meaning that you should exude the same confidence and humor in the afternoon that you felt when the day first began.
Bitterness has a way of leeching into our tone of voice, our comments, even whether or not we believe what others say. “Keep in mind the other person you encounter cannot understand your bitterness,” he cautioned.
“Some people and some meetings will be short lived: a one-time encounter, a 5 minute meeting. Chance encounter or regular engagement, though, stay positive. Keep negative thoughts to yourself,” he said.
Motivational Speaker Jim Rohn once said, “Learn how to turn frustration into fascination. You will learn more being fascinated by life than you will be being frustrated by it.”
Replace the word ‘frustration’ with bitterness and you get the message.
As Mike explained, “I always keep in mind that, whether it’s people, situations or leadership, something always changes.” The job that didn’t seem right last week might have been altered, or the position that was frozen might be re-opened next month.
Don’t allow bitterness prevent you from seeing the changes and being able to respond appropriately.